Well started doing the exercise and all of a sudden I am like who do I love? I love my family, son, daughter, husband, sisters, mother and father. Then I thought they all take so much energy out of me, so many are so emotionally needy. I don't think this exercise went in the right direction to write about. I think what are they doing? Do they need something ? hoping everything is alright. I think first I need to let go of the what do you need attitude everybody always needs something. I probably am not in the right state of my life for this exercise I am still working on relaxing and getting me to the state I need to be until this happens I think this exercise is a wash for me.
I do read inspirational cards at this time such as: I love myself and am OK with who I am. I am at peace with myself and can love freely. I feel these cards at this to me help more than the mp3that I listened to.
When reading the exorcise in the book I seem to fair better but when you been bouncing off the walls for a week there is no peace and love at this time.
It has been stated that people who work their mind such as crosswords, brainteaser games, and reading tend to ward off dementia and maybe slow down the progression of Alzheimer (Hathaway, 2005). Staying healthy and positive also has great haelth benefits. That where the mind body spirit comes in to play they all work together training your mind to be positive working out and meditating for your body and sitting reflecting on a higher power for all round peace and tranquility(
References:
Hathaway, W., (2004). The benifits of a mental workouts. wwwglobalaging.org
I am hoping to do better this week for myself and spirit. Marina
Really great job! I agree completely on the excercise although I was not thinking about who I love it was hard for me to pick one person in particular to focus on so I also caught my mind wandering. I feel a though I keep having problems with focusing when doing these excercises. Your explanation of mental workouts is very in depth also you did a great job explaining this.
ReplyDeleteI also have a lot of people in my life that are emotionally needy, so I understand when you say that it takes a lot out of you to provide for those people. Sometimes I get to the end of the day, having been going, going, going, all day long, and I think, "I didn't actually accomplish anything today." It can be frustrating. Although it sounds painfully selfish to actually say so, I truly believe that you have to take care of yourself first, in order to better give to others.
ReplyDeleteI am the same way: I feel like I get much more out of reading inspirational things/motivating words than listening to that mp3. I also was immediatly trying to think about who do I love...and then tried to narrow it down to just one person to think about. Then I got a little distracted and kept thinking the same thing over and over. I was glad there was no music (well, almost no music) and just ocean noises.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, I think it's important to try and remember yourself and try to focus on you from time to time and worry less about "needy" people. I know my mom probably feels the same. I know somedays I probably burden her with MUCH more than she really needs to be taking on. I think she has, however, learned to let go of all of our (her children) "neediness" and realize that we are all adults and live our own lives and she can't control or fix everything. I think she finally remembered who SHE is, too....and that she is her own wonderful individual that deserves attention :)
Marina,
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you shared your experience with this weeks exercise. I have felt very similar to you in the past when trying to participate in relaxation, meditation and even prayer! I actually tend to still wander during prayer, one thing that comforts me is that I know the Lord knows the depths of my heart and my thoughts and He is a great multi-tasker (;
Marina, I am also sure that your family knows and loves you for who you are and not just what you can do for them! Many blessings and peace throughout the week.
~Brandy
Hello Marina, I enjoyed reading your Blog this week. You are not the only one having problems with relaxation. I continue to need to work on the exercises because I sat there and think of all the things I could be doing instead of trying to focus.I realize I need to take time for myself but finding time with family, school, church,and work sometimes is not easy. I agree with Brandy, I am sure your family loves and understands you. Have A Good Week.
ReplyDeleteLove is an amazing thing however it can be draining as well. Love comes with so much responsibility. You have to support people through thick and thin even when you don’t agree with something they are doing. Love is unconditional and when someone needs something you need to pick up at any given time and help. Love can be so greedy at times but at the end of the day “We accept the love we think we deserve” (Stephen Chbosky). If we love ourselves, giving love and accepting love is so easy!
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